When You Find Yourself Trying to Fix Your Partner

Fixing your relationship begins with fixing yourself 

Has everything you've tried failed?

You thought you were doing all the right things. Everything between you seemed to be going well. Your partner looked happy, but then one day she or he changed, and you don't know why.

Now you can't seem to do anything right. All you say just makes things worse. You feel you've tried all you know to fix it, and yet it's still broken. You feel helpless and alone.

What you know about fixing the problems in your relationship comes from many places. Perhaps it's what you saw your parents doing or not doing in their marriage. Maybe, it's what you've seen your friends do with their spouses or partners. Or, you may be listening to well-meaning family and friends.

Fixing your relationship starts with fixing yourself. Is it how you say things, or your tone of voice, or your attitude that isn't working with your partner? Does your body language say more than your words? Are you making it all about your mate, and not taking responsibility for your part?

Working With a Therapist

You may come into therapy wanting to change your partner, but you will quickly learn that it is about changing yourself. Working with a therapist is a process of arriving at a level of comfort, wherein self-discovery begins to take place. It is learning your style of communication, and how effective it is in relating to your partner, of seeing where you may be blaming, instead of owning your role in the conflict, of being open and willing to make those necessary changes in yourself as you encounter them, to improve the relationship.

How long does it take?

"You will experience growth even sooner than you would have expected."

The length of time spent in a course of therapy varies widely from person to person. It may sound like a daunting process that will take an inordinate amount of time. The time that this life-changing endeavor will take will be commensurate with your willingness to pursue it. Your self-discovery and openness to make positive changes will progress through stages in which you will be rewarded in seeing your relationship ever evolving into a healthy and fulfilling one.

Should you choose to work with me you will be guided in a gentle, yet direct manner. You will experience growth even sooner than you would have expected, and, you will know when you've acquired enough self-knowledge to continue to progress on your own.

Are you ready to begin?

If the moment has arrived where you have decided to take action and begin the process that can change your life, I invite you to send me a message or call now: 626 571-0077. I will get back to you promptly.